Supporting the Siblings
Illness and Loss: What is mentionable is manageable.
Child psychiatrist Dr. Elena Lister: “If we do not acknowledge our feelings and let them out, they eat away at us inside. We cannot make sadness go away. With grief, there is no way around it – we can only go through it.” “I’m sharing it with you and we can metabolize it together.” Dr. Lister talks about how it is important to use concrete words with children, and establish a space to speak openly about difficult things.
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Illness and Loss: What is mentionable is manageable.
His sister plays with him as though he were a typical sibling. It’s an inspiration to try and emulate how she sees him.
Siblings: “I wracked my brain about how to make his last days better.”
Talking to siblings about end of life.
Transitioning to End of Life: Helping each sibling navigate it their own way.
She, the sister, finally understood. She didn’t want to see him suffering in his life.
Siblings: Holding on to hope while also understanding death may happen. “The staff was worried she was too hopeful, unrealistic.”
Her sharp decline was hardest on her brother. He thought he had more time.
Death of a sibling from illness: We let Julia, the big sister, see the dead body.