Jacob, Erin, Leah, Michael
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Aunts and Uncles Reflect: When I think about Havi, I think about the purest laughter and joy and heart.
The aunts and uncles — who moved to be near their little niece, Havi, diagnosed with a fatal condition, and her parents Matt and Myra — introduce themselves and share a sampling of their love for and memories of Havi. “She had a way of reminding us all of what the most important things are. .. She could just captivate the room.”
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Aunts and Uncles Reflect: When I think about Havi, I think about the purest laughter and joy and heart.
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Extended Family: It’s been a lifeline to have each other.
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Moving to be with our niece and her parents. (COVID made it easier to relocate). It wasn’t straightforward but it was clear.
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There is not adequate grief support for aunts and uncles.
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Extended Family: Grieving together but focusing on Havi’s parents.
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Extended Family: Giving is living. This is a choice we’re making.
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Sibling boundaries: Close as a unit but also tending to our respective marriages.
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Aunts and Uncles: Showing emotions with each other and Havi’s parents
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Some support tips for other aunts and uncles
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Extended Family: Initiating support for and conversations about end-of-life
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The Power of Ritual: “The Shabbirthday”
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Engaging and also Protecting the (grand)parents
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Bereavement: Leaving the pod
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