Hannah and Eric
Hannah and Eric, parents of Sage and older brother Gabriel. Sage was born with Arteriovenous Malformation (AVM) and died at age 3 months.
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Archived Recording of CPN's In the Room: Pregnancy after Child Loss
A recorded conversation about honoring your loss while anticipating and experiencing the birth and life of another.
Becoming pregnant and welcoming another child after losing a child can bring forward a complex and often competing set of emotions. Finding understanding in the medical world also brings forward challenges. This conversation hosted by Courageous Parents Network features Kathie Kobler, PhD, APRN, PCNS-BC, CHPPN, FPCN, FAAN who frames the issue and provides lots of advice for consideration, and two moms, Lynette and Hannah, sharing their stories.
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Archived Recording of CPN's In the Room: Pregnancy after Child Loss
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“I live everyday with the memories of what happened to my son, and it will never be apart from me.”
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It's important to discuss your uncertainty at the prospect of bringing another child into the world.
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Eric & Hannah: Being Sage's parents then and now. Sage's story.
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Telling our son’s story
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We were trouble-shooting with the doctors and the nurses.
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It’s easy to get overwhelmed; so being an integral part of your child’s care team allows you to have conversations and know why you’re having them
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Bridging the Gap to the medical staff. It was like being in communion with each other.
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Being your child’s advocate: It connects you to all things greater.
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Our son. Our effort; His edge of suffering; the Outcome
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Being our child’s advocate: “Every decision that was made medical was absolutely necessary. And then we knew when his body had endured enough.”
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Parents give tips on being in the NICU: Staying present, creating routines, holding your child as is possible; pumping
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Being in the NICU: Taking turns going home
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Our son’s last day: “We knew we had done everything possible for him. It was right, despite how wrong it was.”
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Leaving the hospital after he died: It was unbearable.
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Something broke inside of me when he died.
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Our son and this experience still push us to rise and be the most actualized versions of ourselves possible.
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“It’s a deep wisdom you come away with at the cost of extreme suffering.”
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“You do learn these incredibly profound lessons and I think that we have a responsibility to share that.”
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Bereavement: This is very isolating. You don’t wake up and forget. We are holding on to what we know.
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To pediatric providers: “There is no way to make child death easier but there is a way to help parents feel more supported.”
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When our child is about to pass away, we know we are about to plunge over that cliff
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Parents worry about the impact of child death on the staff
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Hospitals need to be more active in how they support bereaved parents. “We are a gold mine of energy and love if given a chance.”
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Sibling illness and death: Parents on how they support their older son who has autism
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Three bereaved moms share how they view the spiritual connection between their children.
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