Talking to Your Child about Their Wishes

Doctors should know that getting past the fear of it is the biggest step.

The mom of a 9-year old with cancer talks about how the anticipation of the conversation is the worst part. It is helpful when doctors are open. "Once you face your hardest fears, you're not as afraid of things."

She was willing to go there with me.

The mom of a daughter who died at age 9 from cancer talks about her daughter introduced the conversation about end-of-life and death, and how they would enter in the conversation over time.

She was able to look at me and say, “Mom, I am dying.”

The mom of a daughter who died at age 9 from cancer shares how her daughter worried about how her mom would be after she died, and how they talked about it and the mom reassured her.

Those conversations ended up being my saving grace because then I had no regrets.

The mom of a daughter who died at age 9 from cancer shares pieces of conversations she had with her dying daughter about their sadness, their love, their thoughts about death. The conversations weren't scary at all. "They let me know what Lydia needed, and wanted, and have helped in the healing process."

I asked, “So Lydia, what you think you would want if you did die?”

The mom of a 9-year old daughter with cancer shares how she and her daughter began an honest conversation about what might happen. They discussed burial site, cremation vs casket, the funeral, and ideas about the after-life. The conversation enabled great peace of mind.

Doctors should know that getting past the fear of it is the biggest step.

She was willing to go there with me.

She was able to look at me and say, “Mom, I am dying.”

Those conversations ended up being my saving grace because then I had no regrets.

I asked, “So Lydia, what you think you would want if you did die?”